There is a saying you have most likely heard before. It goes something like, “lower your expectations and you will never be disappointed.” Have you heard it before? Better yet, are you okay with it? Because we are not.
At the core of embracing how much you matter to yourself, to others, and to the world is the understanding of cause and effect. Maybe we don’t think about this as much as we should, but we are powerful beings.
If someone asked you, “If you had one hour to do anything you want, as long as it is for you, what would you do?” how would you answer their question? What if they only offered the timeframe of 15 minutes? Or what if they offered a full day? How would you respond?
When was the last time you were in a store and an employee came up to you to see if you needed help? Can you recall the moment? Can you also recall how you responded? Our guess is something like this, “No thank you, I am just looking.”
“I hope you are having a great day.” “I’ve always wanted to tell you that your smile lights up a room.” “Thank you for being such a patient friend and a great listener.” “Love your jacket.” “You’re the best.” “You rock.” “You matter.”
Let us set the record straight… There is nothing random about kindness. Kindness is intentional and it is inspired by a thought, then a choice, and then an act. In the split second when someone decides to open a door for someone else, they are choosing kindness.
The year 2020 has tested us in many ways. Some of those ways are obvious, while others might be a little subtler. And as we close out our focus on being more consistent this month, this week is an important one, for in a subtle way, we might have slipped on this concept a little bit.
One of the most important, yet most challenging, things we can do in life is to get to know ourselves. Can you feel the excitement and the weight of that statement? Well a big part of being consistent is first knowing who we are and how we show up everyday in the world.
We have all heard the saying, “No Pain, No Gain.” But if we were being honest, we would rather it went something like, “No Pain, No Pain” or “No Pain, All Gain.” We hate pain so we avoid it at all cost. However, we love gain and wish there was a quick fix for it… but there isn’t.
We live in a culture of “instant” everything. We put a bag of corn kernels in the microwave and in less than 2 minutes we have a giant bowl of hot buttered popcorn. We use our smartphones and devices to order something on the Internet and it’s at our door within 24 hours.